So thankful for Emily Post's and her great legacy of etiquette, a dying behavior know by few but when implemented loved by many. Back in her time there were expectation for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or groups. Those were the days when it was easier to know what was proper or not. Today's weddings are more complex than ever before, with new traditions to consider.
There is so much to be learned from Peggy Post (Emily Post's third generation) book Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette. She shows you how to handle the big decisions and the little details that makes your wedding beautiful to behold and uniquely yours. And how to carry it off with minimum stress and maximum style.
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This is what she says about insertions:
In addition to the invitations, several enclosures may be placed in the inner envelope (or in the outer envelope, if you omit an inner one).
1. Admission Cards - Admission cards are necessary only when a wedding is held in a popular cathedral or church that attracts sightseers. To ensure privacy in these circumstances, each guest is asked to present his or her card at the entrance. It is generally engraved or printed in the same style as the invitation and reads:
PLEASE PRESENT THIS CARD
AT
ST PATRICK'S CATHEDRAL
SATURDAY, THE TWELFTH OF JUNE
2. Pew Cards - Small cards with "Pew Number ___" engraved on them may be enclosed with the invitations going to those family members and close friends who are to be sated in reserved pews. Recipients simply take the pew cards to the ceremony and show them to ushers, who escort them to their seats. Guests receiving pew cards can sit anywhere within these seats. Pew cards are sometimes sent separately after acceptances or regrets are received, when the bride knows how many reserved pews are needed.
3. At Home Cards - If the bride and groom wish to let friends know what their new address will be, they may insert and "at home" card in with the invitation or wedding announcement. These cards traditionally read:
MR. AND MRS. BRUCE MOORE
WILL BE AT HOME
AFTER JULY SECOND
3842 GRAND AVENUE
AFTER JULY SECOND
3842 GRAND AVENUE
HOUSTON, TEXAS 77001
(898) 555-4321
4. Reception Cards - When a separate reception card is used, it is placed in front of the invitation to the wedding ceremony.
5. Response Cards - It used to be that only correct response to a formal invitation was an equally formal reply, handwritten by the invited guests. This reply is still correct, but because fewer and fewer people these days will take the time to pen a formal reply, in the last decade or so response cards have replaced the hand-written reply in popularity. The response card is inserted with the invitation and is engraved or printed in the same style as the invitation on card stock, in the following form:
M _______________________
ACCEPTS ______________________________
REGRETS ______________________________
THE FAVOUR OF YOUR REPLY IS REQUESTED BY JULY 26
The "M" precedes the space where the guest writes his or her title and name. A printed, stamped envelope is included o that all the guest has to do is write in his, her, or their names, check "accepts" or "regrets", place the card in the envelope, and mail it. When one guests is able to accept and the other is not, it is necessary to make clear on the response card.
6. Tissue - The delicate tissues that are sometimes included in a wedding invitation are optional today. Their prior usage had a real function: to keep the oils from the ink on engraved invitations from smudging as it slowly dried. Improved printing and engraving techniques have made tissues unnecessary for decades, but their use continues as a bow to tradition. While the tradition is fine, it is perfectly correct to exclude the tissue if a couple chooses to do so.
7. Maps - You can insert maps in directions to the wedding sites in a number of ways. You may enclose them with the invitation or you may mail them after you have received an affirmative response to your invitation. Sometimes maps are provided by the ceremony and/or receptions sites. If they are not, you will have to order them or design them yourself. Be sure your directions are clear and accurate and that they are written in as concise and abbreviated a manner as possible to avoid adding extra bulk to the invitation.
8. Rain Card - When a ceremony and/or reception are planned for outdoors, you must have an indoor contingency plan of action in the event of inclement weather. A rain card is small card that give the alternate location for the wedding and/or the reception. It might read:
IN CASE OF RAIN
THE CEREMONY AND RECEPTION
WILL TAKE PLACE
AT
33 ELM STREET
TRAVERSE CITY
Stuffing the envelopes:
1. When two envelopes are used, the invitation (folded edge first for a folded invitation, left edge for a single card) and all enclosures are put in the inner envelope, facing the back.
2. The inner envelope is then placed, unsealed, in the outer envelope, with the flap away from the person inserting it.
3. When there are insertions, they are placed in front of the invitation, so that they face the flap (and the person inserting them).
4. In the case of a folded invitation, insertions are placed in the same direction but within the fold.
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